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Couple types

A typing system built for couples, not individuals.

Your type emerges from the combination – not from either person alone.

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Two axes, one map.

Your individual responses place you on two axes.

Axis 1
Engage ↔ Withdraw
How you respond when tension enters the relationship.
Axis 2
Open ↔ Guarded
How freely your interior life surfaces into the relationship.

The four individual types

Every person is one of four types.

W
The Initiator
Engage + Open
Moves toward resolution and expresses freely.
X
The Anchor
Engage + Guarded
Pushes toward resolution, processes internally.
Y
The Feeler
Withdraw + Open
Needs space first, carries feeling visibly.
Z
The Protector
Withdraw + Guarded
Holds things close; real depth running quiet.
YOUR COUPLE MAP W The Initiator X The Anchor Y The Feeler Z The Protector Engage Withdraw Open Guarded Sarah James

The couple map

Both partners are plotted on the same grid.

Every person scores on two axes. Where you each land places a dot on the map.

Your couple type

Your type is based on both of your placements.

The couple type isn't about either person individually – it emerges from the combination. Where your dot sits relative to your partner's is what creates the pairing. That's why two people with the same individual type can have very different couple types depending on who they're with.

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your couple type?

Two exercises. About 25 minutes each. Everything you learn is yours to keep.

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